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Swinger Life Style FAQs
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Basic FAQ - There are no set "rules." You and your partner should agree before hand about "how, what and when." That means how are you going to contact other swinger couples, what are you going to allow and what you won't during the first encounter and finally when are you going to start. Declare your own guidelines as a couple and stick to them. Remember to be honest with each other and secure in your relationship. Swinging is about enjoying together.

1: What is swinging?

Swinger lifestyle is an alternative lifestyle where one or more couples get together for sexual encounters with a partner or partner out of their own couple.

2: Who are a swinger couple?

A swinger couple is the couple that engages in recreational and social sex practices with other couples of consenting (of course) adults. It usually consists of a male/female relationship.

3. What are the benefits of being a swinger?

~Exploring sexuality and sensuality in ways that are not allowed in the "normal" society.

~For bi-curious men and/or women it's a nice way to explore bisexuality without having to step into the gay or lesbian scene where they may feel uncomfortable, unwelcome or afraid of sexual transmitted diseases.

~Swinger lifestyle allows you to explore and expand your sexual interests.

~Swinging can reinforce a relationship and the commitment involved in the couple’s relationship.

~Being a swinger opens the door to making new friends.

4 What is swinger life style?

A swinger life style is free from a world of frustration and lost loves. The swinger’s lifestyle is giving and receiving pleasure.

5. What are some of the swinger definitions?

~Soft Swinging: In this practice sexual activity is available but not necessary, couples may engage oral sex, masturbate one another or practice same room sex (non-partner swapping).

~Closed Swinging: Couples use separate rooms so that partners of a marriage don't have eye contact each other's swinging. Usually the rooms are in the same house

~Open Swinging: Everyone swings in the same room.

6. Do swingers have rules?

There is no set of defined rules.

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Definitions and Terms
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Terminology - Special words and terms have been developed in swinging as they do in all social activities. Many of the words and terms are slang and may change or cease to be used with time. As swinging is a growing lifestyle, new words and terms are likely to be developed. As with most slang, many of the words and terms are regional in use. A number of the words and terms are used primarily in personal ads and letters in reply to other personal ads. These are rarely used in party swinging. Many activities described by these words and terms are rare in swinging.

4-SOME - Four people or more engaged in sex.

AC/DC - Can go either way. Same as bisexual.

ADULT - Euphemism for pornographic.

ALL CULTURES - Person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities (see CULTURE)

AMERICAN CULTURE - Man on top, the missionary position.

ANAL - Anal intercourse; Greek; Greek Culture.

ANIMAL TRAINING - Sexual activity with animals usually dogs and women; Bestiality

ARTS - uphemism for fetishes; Cultures

B&D or BD - Bondage and Discipline.

BACK DOOR - Anal sex.

BBW - Big beautiful woman. Larger than average woman that is very beautiful regardless of size or weight.

BDSM - Bondage-Discipline-SadoMasochism.

BESTIALITY - (also known as Animal Training) Sexual intercourse with animals.

BISEXUAL - Versatile (also known as BI or AC/DC).  Someone who enjoys sex with both men and women.

BI-CURIOUS - Someone who is curious, interested in, or has had limited Bisexual experience.

BI-SENSUAL - sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive." (also known as B&D or Master/Slave)

BIZARRE - Unusual sexual desires; way out

BONDAGE - A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive." ie: when an individual is sexually aroused while being restrained and / or is subject to corrective treatment by another. (B & D)

CAN ENTERTAIN - Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.

CAN TRAVEL - Advertiser will travel to your home to swing.

CANING - A spanking fetish employing a light cane often with bamboo or another light wood

CHEATING - Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and consent

CLEAN - Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases and drug free.

CLOSED DOOR - (see CLOSED SWINGING)

CLOSED SWINGING - Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms so that partners of a marriage or other intimate relationship do not visually observe each other's swinging. The rooms are almost always in the same house (also known as Closed Door)

CLOSET SWINGER - A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger.

CONDOM - used for contraception and/or protection from STD's (also known as Rubbers)

CONVERTIBLE - Topless

COUPLE - In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabiting), committed (on-going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes; CPL for short.

CULTURES - Euphemism for Fetish, Arts

CUNNILINGUS - Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially with the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (also known as French Culture, Fellatio, Giving Head or Oral-Genital)

CYBER-SEX - Sexual talk via the Internet.

DD - Disease, and Drug free; clean

DILDO - An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus

DIRECTOR - A term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally call a Manager.

DISCIPLINE - A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.

DISCRETION - Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity.

DOCILE - Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).

DOMESTIC TRAINING - Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.

DOMINANT - The sexual partner in control of the willing submissive partner

DP - Dual penetration, simultaneous vaginal and anal.

ENGLISH CULTURE - Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning

ENTERTAIN - See "Can entertain."

EXHIBITIONISM - Behavior in which an individual experiences sexual and arousal or pleasure from displaying his/her body: enjoys being watched in public.

EXHIBITIONIST - A person who is sexually stimulated by being seen or watched by others while showing sexual portions of the body or engaging in sexual acts.

F - Female

FATTIES - Larger then they want. Overweight people.

FELLATIO - Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth.

FETISH - Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy

FLAGELLATION - Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking

FOURSOME - Four people or more engaged in sex.

FRENCH (French Culture) - Oral-genital activities: fallatio, cunnilingus

FULL SWAP - A couple that enjoys sexual pleasure with others that includes anything up to and including intercourse.

FUN AND GAMES - Euphemism for sexual activity

GAY - A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian.

GBM - Gay Black Man.

GWM - Gay White Man.

GENEROUS - Refers to money for sex.

GREEK (Greek Culture) - A slang term used for anal-penile intercourse.

GROUP ROOM - Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).

GROUP SEX - Swinging; Social-sexual activity between three or more people. (also known as Moresomes or Orgy or Roman Culture)

GROWTH SWINGING - Social-sexual environment that promotes emotional, personal and social growth

HARD CORE - A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.

HARD SWINGING - A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected. (also known as HARD CORE)

HEAD - Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head" (See French)

HEDONIST (Swinging) - Euphemism for a swinger; an individual who lives only for pleasure.

HETEROSEXUAL - Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.

HOMOSEXUAL - Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (also known as GAY)

HORNY - Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure.

HOST - The term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. (also known as Director)

HUMANIST - Person who believes in human values, potential, self-respect of the individual, personal freedom and human rights.

HUNG - Refers to a man with a large penis.

HWP - Height/Weight proportionate. Some one that is not overweight or underweight.

INDOOR SPORTS - Swinging activities in general.

ISO - In search of.

INDOOR SPORTS - Swinging activities in general.

INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP - Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values. Used chiefly in personal ads and letters in answer to personal ads

LEATHER - A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing of leather garments.

LESBIAN - A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women (also known as GAY)

LIFESTYLE SWINGERS - People who prefer to get to know someone before having sex. This may mean socializing at clubs, exchanging email and chatting online, or going out on dancing, dining, or for drinks first. Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values.

LTR - Long term relationship.

KING TRIAD - One man and two women.

M - Male

MARITAL AIDS - Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others. (also known as TOYS)

MASOCHISM - Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others. (Also known as S&M)

MASSAGE - Working of the muscles across certain parts of the body. Can be sensually stimulating.

MASTER/SLAVE - Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship; in BDSM a MASTER is completely Dominant, to the point of "ownership" and the SLAVE is completely subservient, to the point of being "property"; (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)

MATROOM - Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM).

MBC - Married black couple.

MBF - Married black female.

MBiC - Married Bi couple.

MBM - Married black male.

MEET FOR PLEASURE - Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity. Used chiefly in personal ads and letters in answer to personal ads.

MELLOW SMOKE - Usually refers to marijuana. Legally, a no-no.

MÉNAGE A TROIS - A sexual encounter involving three people; a three-some, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. May involve an on-going emotional relationship of the participants. (see THREESOME, TRIAD)

MORESOMES - Same as orgy. More than three or four people in a swinging interaction.

M/s - (see MASTER/SLAVE)

MWF - Married white female.

MWM - Married white male.

NASCA - The North American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs and magazines to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle it has become, to give a national voice to the growing swinging community and to promote the development of ethical swing clubs. Levels of members: Affiliate Club, General, Associate and Institutional for swing clubs and magazines, general swinging community, media and institutions of learning and research.

NEWBIES / NEWCOMERS - New people in swinging; First-timers

NONSMOKER - Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.

OFF PREMISE - Events in which sexual activity is prohibited at the party. If members wish to get together sexually they either go to a hotel, home, or else where for pleasure.

ON PREMISE - Events usually held at house parties or private clubs. Sexual activities are allowed in designated areas or bedrooms. There are also safe rooms where sexual activities are not allowed to take place. 

OPEN DOOR - see OPEN SWINGING)

ORAL GENITAL - (see CUNNILINGUS, FELLATIO, FRENCH, HEAD)

ORGY - Sexual interaction with complete absence of inhibition in everyone taking part; group sex

OPEN SWINGING - A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room. (also known as OPEN DOOR); The kind of swinging where partners are allowed to swap and have sexual intercourse in the same room, or bed. (Western US ); swing party where participants socially mix and are free to swing as couples, in one-to-one pairings and group sex during the progress of the party.

P/P - Photo/Phone (used in personal ads).

PARTY - Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging; Events of group swinging with more than one couple. This is not to be comfused with orgies. Private rooms can be used, but all swingers are under one roof.

PARTY CLOTHES - Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play.

PARTY HOUSE - (Western US ) A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties.

PASSIVE - Submissive; won't do it to you, but it's ok to do it to him or her. Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging (see DISCIPLINE)

PHOTO - Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others.

PHOTOGRAPHY - Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs.

PLEASURE SWINGERS - People who are into Swinging for sex; no pretense for social or emotional interactions no directly related to sexual activity.

POLY - Loving more than one.

PRO - a professional for hire; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.

QUEEN TRIAD - One woman and two men.

RECREATIONAL SWINGER - A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion with no desire for emotional attachment.

RESTRAINT - Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.

ROMAN (Roman Culture) - Group sex; the party scene, orgies, etc; an event where unrestrained multiple sexual activities occur all in one room.

RUBBER - Condom means of contraception; sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D.

S/M or SM - Sadism and masochism

SAFE - Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy or female with hysterectomy or tubal ligation.

SAFE SEX - The use of condoms during inter-course or abstinence from certain sexual practices

SBF - Single Black Female.

SBiF - Single Bi Female.

SBiM - Single Bi male.

SBM - Single Black male.

SGL - Single

S&M - Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM, MASOCHISM).

SINGLE - A swinger without a partner, single or married. (also known as SGL)

SOCIAL - A party, dance or other gathering often sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at a social but privately arranged swinging may follow a social; an event that is organized in a get-acquainted area of neutral ground, such as a restaurant, or dance hall, often followed by a party. 

SOCIAL SWING CLUB - A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important. 

SODOMY - Non-coital, especially anal or oral, copulation with either an opposite-sex or same-sex partner 

SOFT SWINGING - A social, erotic swing party environment where sexual activity is common and available, but not required or assumed. Sometimes used to describe swapping up to, but not including intercourse; an event where two or more couples will agree to watch each other during sexual activities.

S.T.D. or STD - Sexually transmitted disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. These social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem.

STR or STR8 - (see STRAIGHT)

STRAIGHT - Non-swinger; A Swinger who is not interested in same sex sexual activity; A person who does not use drugs.

SUBMISSIVE - Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see PASSIVE); also known as Docile.

SWAP or SWAPPING - An out-dated term meaning two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity.

SWF - Single White Female.

SWM - Single White Male.

SWEDISH CULTURE - Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another

SWINGING - An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners; a couple oriented activity but single men and women sometimes are involved.

SWINGING LIFESTYLE - Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.

SWING MAGAZINE - A periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of general interest to the swinging community.

SWINGING MARRIAGE - Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.

THREESOME - Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. Not always the same as a "menage a' trois" in that the latter may involve emotional involvement and a continuing relationship.

TICKET - A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the man to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing.

TOYS - Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS)

TRANSSEXUAL (TS) - Individual who has undergone conversion from one gender to the other through surgery and hormone treatments; one who desires gender-conversion

TRANSVESTITE (TV) - A person who receives sexual gratification by wearing clothes identified with the opposite sex; not necessarily homosexual

TRAVEL - (see CAN TRAVEL)

TRIAD - Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.

TRIOLISM - Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". This is a common but confusing usage (see TRIAD)

TUBAL LIGATION - Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile; A method of contraception. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation.

UTOPIAN SWINGER - A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals

VASECTOMY - Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the "vas deferens" to make a man infertile; A method of contraception.

VERSATILE - Bisexual; see AC/DC

VIBRATOR - Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another.

VOLUPTUOUS - Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips.

VOYEUR - A person who enjoys and is stimulated by watching others in sexual acts, such as in the act of undressing, or sexual exhibitions.

VOYEURISM - Sexual gratification by watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual activity

WATER SPORTS - An act where where one person urinates on other, involving sexual stimulation.

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SOURCES:
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Club Climax - Swinger Life Style FAQ
http://www.clubclimax.org/Lifestyle.html

East Coast Couples / Hampton Roads Couples
http://www.hrcouples.com/terms_def.htm

SwingerFaq.com
http://www.swingerfaq.com/swinger_glossary_and_terms.html

Swinger Terminology
http://members.aol.com/swingpages/term/term.html

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