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Play Partner Check List
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Check List - We offer this list, which is just as valid for a Top to fill out, from a Dom friend of ours who'd prepared it for potential submissive play partners. He said, "There should some warnings, posted along with this Check List. It was designed after I had a prospect hurt, because I did not question her enough. She totally trusted the Dom. Both of us made a miss-judgment."

The initial thing he asks for is of primary importance:

"First .. and before anything else .. you must give me a copy of your UP-TO-DATE STD test !

There are NO EXCEPTIONS !!

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BDSM Play Partner Check List - for submissives
This list is to be filled out fully .. all 9 parts .. and returned ASAP !

This checklist should be filled out by a submissive and provided to a Dom / Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play. Dominants may wish to work through the checklist, to get a better handle on their specific interests. Switches should go through the checklist twice; one person's Dom and sub interests may be very different.

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How to score the test:

For each item, you need to provide two answers:

For "experience" - write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity. Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.

For "willingness" - indicate for each item how you feel about DOING that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

? - means you don't understand what the item is attempting to describe.

NO - means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 - (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would permit the Dominant to do it if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 - means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it was asked of you.

2 - means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 - means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 - means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 - means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

6 - ULTRA WILD TURN-ON ... Words can not describe the feelings I feel in this one.

* - Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with your current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information or nuances which might be important for your Dom to know in the margin to the right. For example under diapers you might wish to distinguish between "wetting" and "soiling".

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the sub is the recipient / target of the activity.

Experience, Willingness             Notes, Nuances

          Yes / No                           NO or 0-6

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Willingness quick-key:

? - Don't understand this item.

* - I will do with current sex partner only.

N - I WILL NOT DO that item under ANY circumstances (a hard limit).

0 - No desire, don't like, will permit if special to Dom (a soft limit).

1 - Don't want to do, but will.

2 - Willing to do, but has no special appeal.

3 - Usually LIKE doing, on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 - LIKE doing, would like it on a regular basis.

5 - WILD TURN-ON, would like it as often as possible.

6 - ULTRA WILD TURN-ON .. Words can not describe the feelings I feel in this one.

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W/T - Willing to try learn about it and then decide.

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THE CHECK LIST

( PART 1 )
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THE CHECK LIST

( PART 2 )
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Answer all these questions fully.


1. What do you look like? Be very specific.

2. Describe your body to me .. again, being very detailed.

3. What do you seek from me? Give specifics.

4. What type of Dom/me do you seek? (i.e. .. a harsh and exacting one or a kind and loving but firm and demanding one?)

5. Do you wish to be my collared submissive or only a training sub?

6. What style of BDSM do you prefer? (i.e. .. do you enjoy pain .. bondage .. ?)

7. Are there any things that you won't do? Be honest.

8. If I decide to collar you, do you feel that your ceremony (real and /or online) must be public or private?

9. I require that you chose a safe word .. so that I may know if I cross your level of comfort and safety.

10. Are you the jealous type?



THE CHECK LIST

( PART 3 )
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Answer all these questions fully.


YOUR FULL NAME:

YOUR AGE:

YOUR BIRTH DATE:

YOUR SEX:

YOUR HEIGHT:

YOUR HAIR COLOR:

YOUR PHONE NUMBER:

WHERE DO YOU LIVE: .. "ADDRESS, CITY AND STATE"

WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE TV SHOW:

WHAT'S ON YOUR MOUSE PAD:

WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE BOARD GAME:

WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE MAGAZINE:

WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE SMELL:

WHAT'S THE WORST FEELING IN THE WORLD:

WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE THING TO DO ON THE WEEKENDS:

WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE SOUNDTRACK:

WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE CD:

WHAT ARE YOU FAVORITE FOODS:

WHAT IS THE FIRST THING YOU THINK OF IN THE MORNING:

DO YOU GET MOTION SICKNESS:

ROLLER COASTERS, DEADLY OR EXCITING:

HOW MANY RINGS BEFORE YOU PICK UP THE PHONE:

FUTURE SON'S NAME:

FUTURE DAUGHTER'S NAME:

DO YOU GET ALONG WITH YOUR PARENTS:

HAVE YOU EVER BEEN CONVICTED OF A CRIME:

CHOCOLATE OR VANILLA:

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE FLAVOR OF ICE CREAM:

DO YOU LIKE TO DRIVE?:

THUNDERSTORMS, COOL OR SCARY:

WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST CAR:

WHO IS THE ONE PERSON YOU WOULD LIKE TO MEET, DEAD OR ALIVE:

FAVORITE ALCOHOLIC DRINK:

FAVORITE NON-ALCOHOLIC DRINK:

WHAT'S YOUR ZODIAC SIGN:

WHO IS YOUR FAVORITE POET:

DO YOU EAT THE BROCCOLI STEMS:

IF YOU COULD HAVE ANY JOB IN THE WORLD, WHAT WOULD IT BE:

WHAT COLOR WOULD YOU DYE YOUR HAIR:

HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN LOVE:

WHAT IS ON THE WALLS OF YOUR ROOM:

IS THE GLASS HALF-EMPTY OR HALF-FULL:

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SNAPPLE:

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE MOVIE:

ARE YOU RIGHT HANDED, LEFT HANDED, OR AMBIDEXTROUS:

DO YOU TYPE WITH YOUR FINGERS ON THE RIGHT KEYS:

IF YOU COULD BE ANY GARDENING TOOL, WHAT TOOL WOULD YOU BE:

WHAT'S UNDER YOUR BED:

WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE NUMBER:

WHAT'S YOUR DREAM CAR:

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SPORT TO WATCH:

SINGLE OR COMMITTED:

ONE OR MANY CHANCES TO LOVE:

IF YOU COULD CHANGE ONE THING ABOUT YOURSELF WHAT WOULD IT BE:

WHAT'S WORSE? LISTENING TO ME TALK ABOUT TAE BO FOR 30 MINUTES OR ACTUALLY DO TAE BO FOR AN HOUR:

DO YOU KEEP GOING OR STOP AND CALL IT A NIGHT:

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE THING ABOUT COLLEGE:

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE QUOTE:

WHAT PLACE DO YOU WANT TO VISIT:

LIST FOR ME THE SEX TOYS YOU OWN:

TELL ME THE SEX TOY YOU OWN YOU ENJOY MOST:

FAVORITE ( 4 ) SEXUAL POSITION .. IN ORDER:



THE CHECK LIST

( PART 4 )
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Tell me three of your fantasies in full detail.



THE CHECK LIST

( PART 5 )
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Define "True Submission"

(be detailed and take your time with this answer .. )



THE CHECK LIST

( PART 6 )
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Do you have online profiles? If so what names and where are on the profiles?



THE CHECK LIST

( PART 7 )
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List here any and all medical issues or problems.

(be detailed and take your time with this answer .. )



THE CHECK LIST

( PART 8 )
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Has there been any abuse in your life be it sexual and / or physical?

(be detailed and take your time with this answer .. )



THE CHECK LIST

( PART 9 )
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Here list any and all lifestyle time. (i.e. experiences and or relationships, from the first one to the present date .. )

(be detailed and take your time with this answer .. )



Check List - END

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